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Cheating Wife? What Does
This Mean For your Marriage if you think your wife is cheating?
by Susie and Otto
Collins
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Cheating Wife doesn't always mean that your marriage is over
but if your wife is cheating or you suspect that she is cheating-then
whether you realize it or not your marriage is in serious trouble.
If
your wife is cheating it can mean several things and the most
important is that she is not getting what she wants from her
marriage. This is plain talk but it's true.
Why
is Your Wife Cheating? If your wife is cheating on you, then
you can absolutely be sure that she wants more than she is getting
from you in your marriage.
In our relationship coaching practice with
couples where the wife has been cheating and wants more, contrary
to what some people would have you believe, this isn't necessarily
about how much time you spend in the bedroom. The cheating is
probably about many other factors that have little to do with
sex.
If your wife is cheating on you (or you
suspect that she is) then this means one of two things about
your marriage: 1) Either your marriage is in trouble and she
is having an affair and unconsciously hoping to get caught so
that it will be a wake up call and you'll really get the message
that she is unhappy and wants more or 2) She is cheating because
she feels that there's little hope for the marriage and has
decided to get her needs met no matter what.
Whatever your wife's motivation is for
cheating, you have some big decisions to make and these decisions
will probably be better made sooner rather than later. If you
even suspect that your wife is cheating… then the BIG questions
you need to ask yourself are "do you really love her?" and "are
you willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild your marriage
now?"
The natural reaction of most men when they
find out that their wife is cheating on them is to become upset,
angry and close down to her. While this is a normal and natural
reaction, this reaction will not help you rebuild your marriage
and relationship with your wife.
We're
not suggesting that you should approve of the fact that your
wife is cheating on you. Quite the contrary--what we are suggesting
that you do is to use this as a sign to let you know how serious
that challenges are in your marriage and about the work that
is to be done if you are to heal it and get back to a more loving
place.
A cheating wife doesn't always mean that
your marriage is over. It does mean that you have serious challenges
in from of you that must be addressed if you are to save this
marriage. Many of our relationship coaching clients have asked
us in the past "if my wife is cheating on me can my marriage
be saved?" Our answer is always-"that depends on the two of
you."
In a marriage or relationship where both
people truly want to save the marriage then it can be done.
We've seen it happen over and over again. One thing's for sure:
if the love is still there and the commitment to rebuild the
marriage is still there then with some work, you can have a
good marriage once again.
On the other hand-if one
or both of you is not sure what you want or is more interested
in holding onto your upset and anger than in rebuilding the
marriage then there are other questions that are going to have
to be looked at as well.
If
you suspect that your wife has been cheating and want to know
whether you should stay in our leave your relationship…
We have an excellent resource for helping you know what is best
for you. It's our book and audio program called "Should You
stay or should you go?" This book and program offers the most
important questions you need to answer in order to decide whether
you should stay or go. Get complete details by
clicking here.
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