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Affairs & Infidelity
"Cheating
Spouse: Is Spying an Invasion of Privacy?" by Dr. Robert Huizenga,
The Infidelity Coach
My, how the cheating spouse cries
foul when he/she discovers you are spying. Outrage can be intense:
"How dare you!! I never thought you would stoop to that! How
could you!? How can there be trust in this relationship if you
do that? This is none of your business; I don't spy and go behind
your back! Now you know why I want to pull away from you. How
could I love anyone that would do something like that to me?"
On
and on. Cheating husbands and cheating wives usually will not
admit the duplicity of their clandestine behavior. But you are
made out to be the villain if you use detective work to discover
the truth. It doesn't make sense, but then again not much about
infidelity borders close to sanity.
Are
you a morally corrupt duplicitous character hell bent on destroying
the integrity of a relationship through spying? No, of course
not. The integrity of the relationship has been destroyed through
the extramarital affair.
The
affair shattered the promises and mocked the vows that the two
of you made. You saw clearly the signs of a cheating spouse.
The affair invaded the domain of your marriage and crumbled
its protective boundaries.
The
marital infidelity broke the contract of the marriage; it was
the act of betrayal. Spying does not damage the marriage. It
is an attempt to seek the truth and resolve the pain and deception.
Spying is often used to grasp the reality of the situation.
It's intent is to find the truth.
Only the truth can provide a foundation
from which to begin resolving the hurt, pain and forging a direction
for the marriage and enable each person in the marriage to attain
health and sanity.
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About
the Author
Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach,
has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal
from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity.
Visit his website that tells you how to break free from the
affair by clicking
here
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